I hand on heart believe that everyone struggles with confidence at some point in their life. Whether it’s after a break up, after they’ve had a baby or maybe they were just never that confident to begin with. We universally can relate.
The trick to having low confidence is then having the tools to build your confidence up.
There also comes benefits to being confident:
- Improved happiness
- Improved health
- Increased performance
- Improved social ease
If you’re looking for any improvements around any of these areas of your life, confidence can definitely help!
Here are my practical tools for helping increase your confidence.
Walking with your head up
It’s something small, but really profound. As a teenager I would always walk with my head down looking at my feet. Someone told me “walk with your head up!” Ever since then I’ve made a conscious effort to do just that. I also make eye contact with people and always flash a small smile or say hello (especially when out walking the dogs).
This small bit of human interaction is a great confidence booster. There’s also something really respectful about meeting someones gaze with a smile or a hello.
Fake it till you make it
This goes for those occasions you’re not looking forward to, but are obligated to go to. Like a night out at a club with some girlfriends, a baby shower, team lunch, anything involving people where your confidence usually takes a nose dive.
I’ve found that by pretending to have fun, by the end of the evening or event I actually am having fun. Confidence has a lot to do with your attitude and if you’re friendly, make the effort to talk to people and fake it, you confidence will catch up to your head.
Be good to yourself
Be good to yourself and by doing that sometimes you need to be easy on yourself. Confidence doesn’t come over night. If you slowly start working on your confidence, that’s already a positive start. By making small changes to your behaviour you’ll become more and more confident over time.
Don’t be hard on yourself if you have a bad day, we all do. Just push that bad day aside and try to make the next one better.
Surround yourself with positive people
My favourite part of building your confidence is the people you start to surround yourself with. Positive people. The people that warm your heart and make you feel good about yourself.
It’s taken years, but I have an awesome core group of friends who are just amazing. They are positive 99% of the time (because who can be positive 100%??) and always make me feel good about myself and good about life. These people help build my confidence every minute I’m with them.
This one may seem a bit random but exercise has always made me feel good. Whether it’s the third time that week I’ve done it or the first time in six months, when I’m working out I am one smug lady. And smugness helps translate to confidence.
I love being red faced, sweaty, huffing and puffing and working hard. The endorphins help me feel good and so does the fact that I just exercised my butt off!
Check out the latest Suger + Ink episode which is all about being more confident.
These tips aren’t going to suit everyone, but hopefully there’s one or two in there that you can try out and watch you confidence grow.
I’d also love to hear your tips on what you do to feel confident, drop a comment below and let’s build each other up!