Here’s one you probably don’t hear everyday;
Let’s start with the ordinary, mid 20s guy and like many, struggling with dating at the moment.
Here’s where it gets interesting: I do ok with meeting women, much the same as everyone else, but as soon as I tell people that I’m a male pole dancer, instantly I’m friend zoned.
It seems the stereotype of all male pole dancers are gay is alive and well, it’s something I’m pretty used to, especially with people who don’t know me well.
So my question is this, how do I avoid the stereotype? It’s not something that I care to hide, my friends all know, but how do you broach that with someone new without it changing their opinion of you?
Approaches I’ve tried are:
I do gymnastics (I do but I dislike hiding parts of my life like this)
I do Chinese pole (again, partly true, most of my tricks are inspired by Chinese pole)
I do dance (I don’t)
Saying nothing (trying to hide one of your passions sucks)
Over to you Blondie
Firstly, let me ask – are you free July 21st for a friend’s Hens Night I’m planning and how do you feel about nudity?
Ok now the awkward bit is over.
I’m not sure if ‘you’re gay’ is the first thing that comes to mind when you say you’re a male pole dancer, but can understand the dilemma faced when telling a potential gf this is what you do.
Mostly I think you need to own it. If you’re a straight pole dancer who doesn’t plan on giving it up any time soon, then you need to tell them why you love it. The calve strengthening muscles, the gyrating against a pole, whatever it is, sell why you love it.
Passion is sexy, regardless of what it is. If you see someone beaming about a hobby they do, you can’t help but beam back and be happy for them. It’s not often we find stuff that truly makes us happy.
If the girls have a problem with it are they really the type of people you then want to date?
Better yet, date someone who also enjoys pole dancing; surely they’d have no prejudice.