I’m head over heels in love with a close friend. She’s seeing a guy who’s actually really nice but hearing about them makes me so jealous and upset. I can’t stop thinking about her, and every time she talks about her guy I hate him for being with her. I feel like I’m a horrible person because I can’t feel happy for her and I hate the guy she’s with for no reason – he’s a nice guy and it’s not fair to hate on him like this.
Am I a bad person and can I do something about it? I really value our friendship, and I feel like if I told her what I was feeling it would make things really awkward. Sometimes we flirt playfully but I don’t think it means anything.
Is there anything I should do? And am I the worst person ever for hating on her man like this?
Hello there Chris,
This is going to be blunt – you are right, if you tell her how you feel it will make things awkward.
Feel free to hate the guy all you like, but all that is going to do is make you upset.
If you value the friendship then that’s how you need to see it, a friendship.
Unless they break up I say move on and start seeing other people. You don’t want to miss your chance with someone great just because you waited for someone who isn’t available.