I’m really bad at taking outfit photos. Not ones in the mirror in the elevator at work – if you follow me on Instagram you’ll know that I rock at doing that.
I’m bad at doing the proper ones. Where I dust of the DSLR, bribe the boyfriend into taking my pics and getting my hair and makeup to a state that will photograph well.
Once I get home after work and my ass hits the couch, it doesn’t usually get up. I get sucked into my emails, blog and magazine and before I know it it’s 10pm, the good lighting is gone and so is the moment.
So instead I’m going to share the bad iPhone photos in an attempt to show you my everyday outfits.
This one is one of my go-to work outfits. I love this skirt with the white block trim, I’ve paired it with a plain white tee, both from ASOS Curve (tucked in) and added a pop of colour with my burnt orange cardigan from City Chic.
I’ve recently discovered a new love for plain tees, they look great with skirts, jeans, pants etc and you can jazz them up with a statement necklace or scarf. You can pick up a great basic coloured tee for less than $20 at ASOS.
I’m not usually one to comment on current events through my blog. Sure I join in on the conversation on Twitter or Facebook, but after ranting and raving to the Pool Boy about the recent death of Charlotte Dawson he said it simply ‘write about it’.
Spending a lot of my time online and sharing a lot of my life I’ve come across online bullying. I don’t mean trolling, I mean flat out nasty comments about myself or my appearance. I’m a super sensitive person and these have caused tears every now and then.
Not once have I actually had someone say I should die. Not like what Charlotte Dawson often copped through Twitter.
I think if I did get comments like that it would be the time to walk away from the blog and social media. As someone in the spotlight like her I can imagine it would be a lot harder, her job was driven by people talking about her.
I honestly don’t think online bullying was the only thing Charlotte was dealing with, I’m sure she had other demons she was battling. That’s just the point isn’t it? That we don’t know what happens in people’s lives behind closed doors, therefore we don’t know what effect our actions can take on a person.
The sad thing is, if online bullying contributed to Charlotte’s state of mind and was potentially the straw that broke the camels back – how do we expect children to deal with online bullying.
No surprises that I was bullied by kids at school, I think just about everyone has experienced some level of bullying. Back then it didn’t invade your home or privacy through Facebook, online messenger, ask fm, twitter. Your most embarrassing moments couldn’t have been filmed and plastered all over the internet. You couldn’t have strangers telling you they hated you and wanted you to die.
Bullying has moved to such an extreme level and I believe enough isn’t being done to not only protect kids but teach them how to deal with it, because even though it may happen online it then gets taken to the school yard.
If a grown adult can’t handle it, how do we expect children to?
Depending on how you engage with your blog audience, Facebook can be really worthwhile. At least once upon a time it was!
Facebook has made a big change in the way it allows you to advertise and now it seems they may not be doing it fairly – so as to make a quick buck off small businesses and blogs.
You can pay to promote your Facebook page and updates to others on Facebook, it promises increased likes and engagements. What you do get however is a lot of fake likes (so it seems) and a lot less engagement.
I gave Facebook advertising a go when I was promoting my online magazine Big Ink, I wanted people to see my products and to like my page if it was of interest to them.
I have over 500 likes on that page now and next to no engagement when I post things. I’ve personally spent over $200 on Facebook advertising that has gotten me nothing. Sure my page looks like it has a following, but this doesn’t translate into webpage views or comments/likes on my Facebook statuses.
All in all I consider Facebook advertising a big fat waste of money! Especially for those with small budgets, you could definitely spend it elsewhere!
Rather than spend money on advertising, spend that extra time making sure the content you share on Facebook is interesting. If people love it they’ll like it and share it off their own accord, generating more genuine interest for free.
Does being body positive mean you then become unhealthy?
This is a question that was asked in a group I’m a part of and it’s certainly interesting and valid!
The asker then went on to explain that while being on the body positive journey they’ve more accepted that they are plus size and in turn have let go of their health.
This is a hard area to navigate. As a body positive person I am in no way saying that living an unhealthy lifestyle is appropriate. To me body positivity put simply is accepting that everyone’s body is different and skinny doesn’t necessarily mean healthy.
Thanks to genetics all our bodies store fat in different places and we all process foods differently and our bodies handle this in all different ways.
Since I’ve joined the body positive journey it’s actually made me healthier. I don’t focus on what I can’t do as a fat person, I focus on what I can do as a person.
I’ve also gained confidence I didn’t have before. I’m not talking about ‘talking to random people confidence’, more the kind that stops you from worrying about what people will think and doing what I want and what will make me happy.
This has changed my whole outlook on fashion & exercise.
I now look at the endless opportunities when it comes to fashion, rather than thinking I need to cover up my belly rolls or arm fat. It’s not about what makes other people comfortable, it’s about what makes me feel good.
The same with exercise. Rather than being afraid to try something new I now just do it. Once upon a time I would worry about what people thought seeing a plus size person trying bikram yoga, but now I just do it. Thanks to that attitude I’ve found a love for yoga.
My body is no ones business, it’s also not my problem if the way I look bothers someone else. My health and happiness is all about me – that’s what being body positive is about.
The cat is out of the bag! Not that it was very well hidden..
Blonde Ink is launching a YouTube channel dedicated to style advice for plus size fashion.
Now I don’t profess to be an expert so instead of me telling you what’s what, I’ll be interviewing stylists about trends, styling, colours and anything else you want to know about fashion.
In particular one segment I’d like to have is ‘Ask Blondie’, but of course this can’t be done without YOU! I want to know what your burning fashion questions are and I’ll do the hard work and research it or ask the professionals.